BASIC MIND CONTROL: This is what pimps use to gain control of girls/women to exploit them for their own gain. Pimps are antisocial/sociopaths the same as Ted Bundy/Ariel Castro/Philip Garrido/Brian David Mitchell. I am alarmed that nearly a quarter of a century posthumously/since death penalty, Ted Bundy can still exploit the naivete of the bride of Christ. She is far more valuable than this. Her purpose is larger than this.
The game of sociopathy looks like this:
"Appear completely vulnerable, humane, attractive, compassionate and articulate, etc to lure your victim. After you gain her trust, you can get her to do ANYTHING you can conjure. She'll do it in the name of love - even in the name of loving Jesus. She'll follow you to hell if you promise her heaven. It doesn't matter what she believes as long as she pays off in benefits to you. Evangelical nervousness about sex and God-honoring fantasy makes Christ's Bride a very accessible target and useful tool in *our* mission to destroy men and women and keep them captive to our devices."
As believers, we would be well served if we considered how to differentiate violence from sexuality. They are not equal. They deserve to be addressed simultaneously Yes, sociopaths are known to use porn. Yes, porn is toxic, immoral, compulsively captivating and all that. But the two don't necessarily equate. And pro-porn advocates have this one thing right, if porn made TB a serial killer, everyone who uses it would become a serial killer. There is a correlation, but there are limits to causation. Let's stop listening to serial killers as though they were our sex experts. Let's articulate a holistic/wholesome perspective that is simultaneously moral AND sex-positive/male-positive/female positive, and God-affirming. This is much harder than censorship, but so much more tranformative!
(Off soapbox now.)
